Betrayal

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I’m interested in studying human emotions and behaviours. Through a series of posts, I will be rambling on some sociological and psychological aspects humans commonly face.

The posts are quite sporadic in its flow and nature, and hence I cannot attest its definiteness (hence ramble lol).

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First up is betrayal.

One of the inspirations for this post is the following quote from Shakespeare:
“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”
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Betrayal is not an easy thing to deal with. Especially when it happens repeatedly to you. And especially when you thought you had a strong rational guard on all the time.

I wish there was a way to solve this issue. But there isn’t. (Or is there?)

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Well, one could argue about the existence of the problem in itself. Shouting betrayal repeatedly could be a result of ‘framing’ one’s experiences a certain way.

Let’s assume here that the accusation of betrayal is valid.

So how do you deal with it?

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Revenge? Well there are two sides to that (like everything else in life)..

“An eye for an eye, makes the whole world blind” & “Revenge is a dish best served cold”

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You know what. Let’s take the ‘high road’, and let the situation pass away into our box of ‘things of the past’.

There’s still a problem with that though. We may shrug over the situation, but the feelings of hurt cannot be shooed away easily.

Unless you are in some sort of a denial stage I guess. Or you are super adaptive and have entered the acceptance stage. (Another question begets here: Is there really a ‘cycle’ of grief?).

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Asides that, what if the person responsible for the betrayal apologises? What would make you believe that the apology is genuine and not another deception?

On that note, is a false apology better than no apology?

 

 

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