I’m interested in studying human emotions and behaviours. Through a series of posts, I will be rambling on some sociological and psychological aspects humans commonly face.
The posts are quite sporadic in its flow and nature, and hence I cannot attest its definiteness (hence ramble lol).
First up is betrayal.
One of the inspirations for this post is the following quote from Shakespeare:
“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”
Betrayal is not an easy thing to deal with. Especially when it happens repeatedly to you. And especially when you thought you had a strong rational guard on all the time.
I wish there was a way to solve this issue. But there isn’t. (Or is there?)
Well, one could argue about the existence of the problem in itself. Shouting betrayal repeatedly could be a result of ‘framing’ one’s experiences a certain way.
Let’s assume here that the accusation of betrayal is valid.
So how do you deal with it?
Revenge? Well there are two sides to that (like everything else in life)..
“An eye for an eye, makes the whole world blind” & “Revenge is a dish best served cold”
You know what. Let’s take the ‘high road’, and let the situation pass away into our box of ‘things of the past’.
There’s still a problem with that though. We may shrug over the situation, but the feelings of hurt cannot be shooed away easily.
Unless you are in some sort of a denial stage I guess. Or you are super adaptive and have entered the acceptance stage. (Another question begets here: Is there really a ‘cycle’ of grief?).
Asides that, what if the person responsible for the betrayal apologises? What would make you believe that the apology is genuine and not another deception?
On that note, is a false apology better than no apology?